Words that come to mind: Helpless. Hopeless. Horrified. Angry. Sad. Perplexed?
Aggression's are never easy. Statistics show 60% of those with autism exhibit aggression toward caretakers.
When the child is younger and smaller, it may be little easier to manage and in society its "little" more accepting. When your child is older, teens/young adult. It is a complete nightmare.
Our son started about eight months ago, rage/explosions periodically. At first geared toward one person, and always during times of high anxiety. It has been horrifying, exhausting and maybe even a bit annoying.
Doc's say severe anxiety/OCD. At first they seemed to think it was his SSRI making him behaviorally "reactive". Apparently SSRI's sometimes work opposite for those with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).
Around June, his Anxiety's seemed to worsen, rages/explosions got worse. Daily grabbing, scratching, biting, screaming, pulling hair. Resulting in bruises and scratches on many of us including him. He is constantly on edge with increase in perseverations. We tired a few medications with no relief.
Now, my son has always been a big quirky but always happy. SO, what is going on??
He wasn't able to attend summer camp at the local Recreation program because they lacked support to accommodate his behaviors. We had to pull him from Therapeutic Horse riding because he couldn't handle it. Things he used to LOVE he has no interest yet.
He has lunged at me several times at me while driving that resulted in me purchasing several types of safey devices such as: safety buckle cover and a safety harness (For other safety suggestions. Take a look at Autism Speaks Safety Tool Kit.)
We have a team of people BCBA's, Social Workers, Doctors, several medication trials, therapists. trying to figure this all out.
I even went the extra, "mom crazy mile' and contacted his pediatrician to rule out anything medical. We tested for Thyroid, Lyme, PANDA's (rare but why not). Everything negative.
Now, It has been documented that 70% of autistic children and adolescents have GI Abnormalities and once the GI issues are treated aggression and problematic behaviors sometimes subside ...still exploring this route...
Another helpful resource for me has been Challenging Behaviors Tool Kit.
TACAnow (Talk about Curing Autism) as also been a great resource for me.
So, I have dubbed this as being the lost summer for him..He has spent most his summer, with the exception of the Extended Year Program at school in his room and worse we have a lot of regression.
As always, comment below if you have a story or tips and strategies that have worked for you.